http://www.graspingforobjectivity.com/2012/04/unlabeled.html) got me thinking about this again today. When Jack looks in the mirror, he likes what he sees. He likes to look at his reflection in mirrors, in glass, on shiny surfaces. When he washes his hands in the bathroom and glimpses himself in the mirror, he takes a good long look and declares, "so handsome!" Because he still doesn't express himself well enough, I don't know if he says "so handsome" because we've said it so much or because he truly finds himself so nice to look at. Jack's craniofacial surgeon says Jack is old enough and big enough and can have his midface operation. We are trying put it off as long as possible. Dr. Fearon says we can wait as long as Jack does not develop a breathing issue (we've got the Bipap for his sleep apnea already) or when he develops a self esteem issue. I don't think we have a
self esteem issue. Jack seems to like himself a lot and he does not seem very interested in anyone else's opinions except those who are close and love him dearly. But I'm a mom so I worry a little (okay I worry a lot!). I hope that we have given him a firm, loving foundation built on the knowledge that he was designed by God for a special purpose and gifted to us to love and adore and help him. But have we gone overboard in telling him how wonderful we think he is?